Being a victim not only keeps you stuck in negative places in your life, it also tends to dig the hole deeper. While I am aware that many people are truly struggling financially as a result of the recent recession, there is also a lot of victim mentality right now in our country. Victim mentality develops from not owning responsibility for your life, and it’s almost always accompanied by its first cousin, blame.
Most of us have a victim mentality in at least one area of our life; the area of money is an especially common one for women because, while growing up, we were usually not encouraged to embrace our financial health.
What steps can you take to end victim mentality NOW so that you can move forward with creating the emotionally healthy and rich life you want? Let me share several steps.
- Own that everything that is present in your life is a result of your prior decisions. This applies to relationships, money and your lifestyle. This is a huge insight, and I can assure you that an awareness of this insight will change your life for the better forever.
- By letting go of being a victim, you allow yourself to move forward successfully. Think about this; you no longer have to be in the role of a victim once you choose not to be! By taking on a new role, such as that of being a successful and dynamic leader of your own financial future, you open the door for this to actually happen. Realize that this successful endeavor cannot possibly happen in conjunction with being a victim because the two roles are opposite one another.
- The realization of this concept is like a light switch being flipped to the “on” position; it happens in an instant, and you are surrounded by light. Changing your life role, however, is not an overnight process. Once you have the awareness, you will catch yourself when you are acting in ways that support a victim mentality. You are then free to choose to act in ways that support the more empowering role you demand for your life.
- Constant blaming is one clue that you are absorbed in victim mentality. Is everything always something or someone else’s fault? Is your unfortunate situation the result of the economy, the government, your spouse, or your childhood? Yes, blame is a close kin to victimhood. Stop both of these powerfully negative forces from controlling your life today.
Ending victimhood is a decision. It’s that simple. Grab a pencil and paper. Ask yourself if you are acting in ways that support a victim mentality. Write out the ideas that come to your mind to suggest this possibility; this may include bad habits, avoidance, or outright denial.
Nailing yourself isn’t easy, but it’s imperative if you wish to change. Trust me; I’ve been there and done that. Make a decision to end victimhood now so you can move forward with a fulfilling and abundant life.