The desire to have money, or wealth, is one of those topics that frequently stirs up uncomfortable feelings. Guilt, shame, and unworthiness are common money saboteurs. And they’re usually very deep inside; so deep that we can’t easily see them, but they control our actions in a very weird way.
Whose feelings are those anyway?
How can you dump negative feelings around money (that you don’t even feel) so you can get on with creating the life you want? Here are several tips to accomplish that “easier said than done” shift that will help achieve goals that are important to your happiness.
1. Learn to notice the feelings that come up for you when you’re dealing with money. We’re usually so busy dealing with life that we forget to give our feelings attention. A common time for those feelings to surface is when you pull out your wallet. Another common time is when you’re paid money either from a customer or your employer. Or how do you feel when you look at your investments or savings account?
2. Identify the feeling. Is it shame, guilt or unworthiness? Or is it something else? Is it regret? Are you stuck on past mistakes and reliving them?
3. Ask yourself where the feeling came from. There’s a good chance that the feeling belonged to one of your parents. And they probably got it from their parents…who got it from their parents, and so on. (How crazy is that?)
4. Ask yourself if you can learn something from the feeling. Is the feeling valid? If so, honor it. Sometimes negative feelings are guiding us in the right direction. For example, is the feeling of guilt coming up because you promised yourself you wouldn’t undercharge for your services anymore…or you wouldn’t spend any more money on a certain item?
5. Be clear about why you want money. In my book, Earn, Grow, Give, I call it your money reasons. This clarity allows you to easily see that the reasons you want money are not evil. In fact, your money reasons will probably provide joy, love, abundance and happiness. Could these be bad?
When you make a clear declaration of your money reasons, you are making a declaration of what you want in your life. It’s so much more than money, but money is so often the needed tool to achieve goals.
P.S. Speaking of making a declaration, look at this wildly fun and creative book image made by some wonderfully creative female entrepreneurs; The Declaration of You…and looks like an awesome place to start. What do YOU want? Declare it now in the comments section!