Do you have negative emotions around money that leave you feeling poor?
If you’re wondering how to stop feeling poor, this post is for you.
I’ll address why we feel poor even when we’re not, how this makes us poorer and how to stop feeling poor so we can live in prosperity instead.
How to Stop Feeling Poor
There are several steps you can take to stop feeling poor when you’re not. And even if you are poor, these steps can help change that, too.
But I’m going to guess that if you’re reading this you have internet access, one or more electronic devices, electricity and probably a lot more than you need to survive.
So, you could be mistaking the term poor for not being where you want to be financially. And we can fix that, but only after we have prepared our minds to do so and gotten out of poor mode mentality.
So, let’s do that now.
Change Your Thoughts of Feeling Poor
We initially get caught up in thinking we are poor for many reasons, including money mistakes, ancestral money beliefs, and childhood money patterns.
Let’s change our feelings to the way we want to feel, not the way we were programmed to feel decades ago based on a mistakes or grandparents who lived through the depression.
Here is how it works: First, you have a feeling. Then, over time, that feeling repeated becomes a belief in your subconscious mind.
Then if your subconscious mind thinks you’re poor, you’re doing things to support that belief. Yikes!
This causes negative behaviors like overspending, avoiding investing, not saving, earning less than you’re capable, analysis paralysis, etc.
Having this awareness alone will have a significant impact on how you are with your money.
All of this came to me after thinking about how my wonderful mother grew up on a farm in rural Arkansas during the depression with 7 sisters and 3 brothers! And my dad grew up during the depression, too, of course.
But my mom said that she thought perhaps they were better off since they had the farm to keep them fed.
Can you imagine how hard that must have been? So, I realized some time ago that I had some ancestral beliefs around being poor.
Ask: Am I really poor?
After the awareness from the spiritual book group that I thought I had problems when I really have them (due to that darn survival brain issue), I got into the habit of asking myself if there was really a problem when I thought there was one.
Likewise, you can ask yourself if you are, in fact, truly poor today. While I don’t want to discredit the importance of saving and building wealth, we need to get out of feeling poor to facilitate that happening.
Do you have all you need today, such as food, warmth, and clothes? (No, the designer handbag doesn’t count! 🙂 And if so, you’re better off than most of the world.
Inquire why you feel poor.
This one is big. Ask yourself why you might feel poor. Doing this while writing in a journal, meditating or simply sitting quietly helps pinpoint the reason you feel poor.
This will make it easier to stop feeling poor.
For example, many people my age feel poor because of depression era parents or grandparents.
Or you may recall a specific event or the way your early childhood family handled money.
Decide to change your Situation
Again, being poor and not being where you want to be financially are very different. But if you are unhappy with where you want to be financially, you can change your situation in many different ways.
This change could be anything from cutting expenses to my preferred strategy of increasing income since cutting expenses is not a wealth building strategy while increasing income can be.
If you want to change your situation, you can.
For example, there’s creating online income from a blog or YouTube channel, getting a certification to increase your pay, job moves, side gigs and outsourcing your services a few hours a week to name a few ways to change your financial situation.
The list is endless in this day and age. If you’re not changing your financial situation, there is something deeper going on.
Focus on Gratitude
Every night when you lay your tired head on that soft pillow think of things which you’re grateful for from that day. Sometimes I think of things like toothpaste, 3 healthy and delicious meals, hot water for my tea, and living with people who love me.
So many people don’t have these things, and they are such wonderful things to have. This is also a great way to get to sleep, and wake feeling abundant instead of poor.
Realize That It Is All Relative
Again, if you’re reading this, you’re better off than most people in the world. Realize that feeling poor is all relative.
I like to think back when I would go through the bank drive through window in Houston and withdraw $10 to put a few gallons of gas in my car to get by until pay day.
Now, when we have an occasional negative cash flow month due to property taxes, a tenant turnover at our rentals and our home AC going out all in one month, I can think back to the $10 drive through days and instantly feel quite wealthy.
Summary for How to Stop Feeling Poor
Now you have probably realized that you’re not really that poor, know why you feel poor, and have the steps to stop feeling poor. As soon as you take them, watch for good things start happening with your money.
Remember, your inner and subconscious thoughts control your actions even though it doesn’t feel like it. And your actions control the amount of money you have.